“Every day is a day to be better.” – Unknown
1. Dream big
2. Figure out your values
3. Stay focused
4. Seek out opportunities
5. Ask for help when you need it
6. Learn from your mistakes
7. Forgive yourself
8. Forgive others
9. Develop an attitude of gratitude
10. Invest in meaningful relationships.
Originally posted on Don’t Lose Hope : “So many people are holding on with the thinnest of threads. Treat people with kindness. You could be that thread.” Never underestimate the value of your words. People wear a mask – so we often we don’t know if someone else is struggling, or at their breaking point.…Quote of the Day — Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative
People will tell you who you are. And sometimes they shout really loudly. So we cover our ears, and we try not to hear. But they keep on shouting – for they need us to hear. They want us to believe that we are flawed, inadequate. That we’re worth much less than others. That we’re […]Who Am I? — Don’t Lose Hope
Things you owe it to yourself to do:
1. Love yourself
2. Like yourself
3. Accept yourself
4. Value yourself
5. Trust yourself
6. Forgive yourself
7. Believe in yourself
9. Respect yourself
10. Take care of yourself.
So much of life is a huge unknown. Where should I live? What career should I follow? What will life look like if I do this or that? Should I have a child? Would I be a bad mom? Should I live on my own? Should I marry this man? Should I stay in this […]Trust me on This — Don’t Lose Hope
Here are some signs that it may be time to walk away from a relationship:
1. Dishonesty: He or she repeatedly lies to you about where they were, what they were doing, who they were with etc.
2. Lack of support for you: He or she is always looking for support from you but gives very little back in return. You are the one who makes the most if the effort, and does the most of the work in the relationship.
3. Cheating: Any affair is a cause to question your relationship. Repeated affairs should be a deal breaker.
4. Condescension: If your partner frequently acts superior, condescendingly or rudely toward you … or criticises and puts you down in front of others … or deliberately tries to make you feel worthless and inadequate … then this is a toxic relationship. It’s time to say goodbye and walk away.
5. Volatile mood swings: Don’t hang around with someone who can suddenly turn nasty, or who likes to rant, rave and dump their feelings on you. While everyone is subject to some mood swings at times, don’t spend time with people whose emotions dominate.
6. Violence: Any violent relationship is a destructive and dangerous relationship. Love and violence should never co-exist.
7. The feelings have changed: Sometimes we just notice that we’ve changed and grown apart – and we don’t feel as if we love that person anymore. If romance has past its due-date, and we don’t have much in common, then it’s time to do the right things by you both, and walk away.
If you feel stuck, and overwhelmed by pain, the following suggestions might help you work through this:
1. Try to put into words exactly how you’re feeling. Is it the pain of rejection? Is it an overwhelming feeling of shame and self-loathing? Is it a sense of disbelief that you’ve been treated so cruelly by others? Is it a sense of utter desperation?
2. Try to find a way of expressing the pain. Sometimes we can tell the person who has hurt us– but often we feel that they won’t be responsive. If that is the case, find someone you can open up to. It’s really important that you have the chance to honestly express what you’re going through. If you feel there’s no-one you can talk to right now, then perhaps try journaling, or using some kind of art, like music or painting.
3. If the pain’s related to something that happened, admit that you can’t go back and change the past. You need to let it go and keep your eyes ahead. You are not defined by what happened to you, and you have what it takes to live a rich, rewarding life.
4. Related to this, forgive yourself and don’t hold on to regrets. Learn what you can – and then choose to move ahead. Don’t be a victim of your past, or other people.
5. Reconnect with who you were previously. Think of who you might have been if this had never happened. You can still be that person: they are still a part of you.
6. Focus on the things that bring you joy and happiness, and focus on those people who love care for you.
“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment it’s growing in, not the flower.” Think about that for a moment. What do you need to really blossom in life? To be the best “you” you were made to be? Who, or what, is stopping you from being your true self? What is causing you […]Time for a Change — Don’t Lose Hope
“Come sit down beside me, I said to myself. And although it doesn’t make sense, I held my own hand as a small sign of trust And together I sat on the fence.“ – Michael Leunig On those days when we feel that we don’t fit in, when we feel so alone, like no-one understands, […]Come, Sit Down Beside Me — Don’t Lose Hope