“No one has the right to judge you, because no one really knows what you’ve been through. They didn’t feel what you felt in your heart.” Keep these words in mind the next time you feel that someone has some view, or opinion about you. – No one has the right to judge you. Absolutely […]
No one has the Right to Judge you — Don’t Lose Hope
Some reasons why we need time alone include:
1. It allows us to hear, and really listen to, our heart.
2. It helps us to feel – instead of push down – our emotions.
3. It helps us to decide who we really want to be.
4. It allows us to step back from the pressure to fit in.
5. It frees us from the need to please, or seek others’ approval.
6. It helps us to establish more appropriate boundaries.
7. It allows us to recharge our batteries.
“I stopped sending paragraphs, stopped begging, I stopped telling people how to treat me, and started walking away, blocking, and distancing myself. Life may be lonely, but it’s become peaceful. Sometimes being alone in life is better than being surrounded by half-ass people.” – Unknown
Is this something you need to take to heart, or apply in your own life?
Put self-love and self-care at the top of your list of priorities.
1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.
2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.
3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were – so celebrate how far you’ve come.
4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.
5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce the lies by acting like you think they’re true.
6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings as that will keep you trapped.
7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.
“You may shoot me with your words. You may cut me with your eyes. You may kill me with your hatefulness. But still, like air, I’ll rise.” – Maya Angelou Let these words inspire you when the struggle feels too much. When you feel defeated, and there’s pressure to give in. Inside you, there is […]
Hope Born from Ashes — Don’t Lose Hope
1. Don’t take criticism personally. Instead, realize that criticism says more about them than it does about you.
2. Distinguish between facts and subjectivity. Most criticisms are just personal opinions. They are not objective and they don’t reflect the truth.
3. Look at the beliefs you hold about yourself. Do you feel defensive and under attack because you don’t believe in yourself?
4. Learn what you can from any comments that are made – and discard the rest as being useless information.
5. Decide not to ruminate on barbs or criticisms – as that will reinforce the faulty message in your brain.
6. Choose to spend more time with people who’re affirming – and minimise the time you spend with those who put you down.
7. Look for a role model who can handle criticism – and try to copy them, so you become more thick skinned, too.
1. Focus on your positive qualities. It’s true that we can all improve in some ways – but start by finding your good qualities – and recognise that these are a major part of who you are.
2. Be aware of, and fight against, your negative self-talk. Negative self talk can quickly snowball and become an angry tirade against yourself – so you become your own worst critic and your own worst enemy. Instead, choose to respect yourself, to love, affirm and believe in yourself.
3. Don’t dwell on things you know you cannot change. We all have imperfections, weaknesses and flaws. They’re really not that crucial, and they’re not that big a deal. Try to keep them in perspective – and change what you CAN change.
4. Make your own decisions – don’t always look to others, and think that they know better … But choose to trust yourself, and your own decision-making.
5. Always try to do your best – as that’s all that is required. You’re a normal human being who’ll sometimes get it wrong. When you do, forgive youself, and then just move on with your life.
1. Acknowledge to yourself that you’re having a hard time.
2. Don’t beat yourself up for struggling.
3. Let go of the drive for perfection.
4. Ask for support from those who care about you.
5. Make sure you enforce healthy boundaries with others.
6. Drop some commitments, and give yourself more space.
7. Take time to relax, and do the things you like.
8. Learn how to enjoy, and benefit from solitude.
“Start over my darling. Be brave enough to find the life you want and courageous enough to chase it. Then start over and love yourself the way you were always meant to.” – Madalyn Beck
Love you.
Be you.
It’s the only way to true happiness.
And you deserve to be happy.
“You are fine just as you are. You don’t need to prove a thing.” Life often feels like one long competition. Who is the prettiest, smartest, funniest, most interesting … and so it goes on. There is pressure to compare ourselves with one another, and that can often lead to massive self-doubt. So what can […]
Yes, You Can Learn to Love Yourself — Don’t Lose Hope
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