The Self-Love Tree — Don’t Lose Hope

“It might be hard to love yourself sometimes, but it is harder to not love yourself.” The author Christine Arylo says self-love is a tree. Self-worth is the trunk, and the life-giving branches are associated with the following qualities. – Self-awareness and self-honesty – Self-acceptance – Self-care – Self-compassion and self-forgiveness – Self-trust – Self-esteem […]

The Self-Love Tree — Don’t Lose Hope

Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.” – Alexander Den Heijer How do feel about your ability to grow, and bloom, in your current environment? What would enable you to find your best self? What would enable you to be your best self? How would you […]

Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope

How to be Yourself

1. First, and most important, see yourself as a valuable, likeable and worthwhile person – someone who is worth knowing and loving.

2. Recognise that your thoughts, ideas, views and beliefs are as important as anybody else’s. You are your own person. You are not just a clone of somebody else. What you think is worth hearing – and you don’t have to apologise or change your views in order to please, or be acceptable to, others.

3. Stay away from people who are trying to change you, or who want you to think and act as they do. Don’t allow yourself and your personality to be swamped or dominated by others.

4. Surround with people who encourage you to be yourself, and who bring out the best in you.

5. Resist the urge to emulate or copy people you admire. At the end of the day each of us is unique. The world is a richer place by you expressing who you are in your own way.

6. Don’t compare yourself with others. We each have different experiences, and are evolving in our own way, at our own pace. There’s no one formula or recipe for becoming or being. Trust your intuition, and follow your own path.

Why we Need Time Alone

Some reasons why we need time alone include:

1. It allows us to hear, and really listen to, our heart.

2. It helps us to feel – instead of push down – our emotions.

3. It helps us to decide who we really want to be.

4. It allows us to step back from the pressure to fit in.

5. It frees us from the need to please, or seek others’ approval.

6. It helps us to establish more appropriate boundaries.

7. It allows us to recharge our batteries.

A Time for Self-Care

“I stopped sending paragraphs, stopped begging, I stopped telling people how to treat me, and started walking away, blocking, and distancing myself. Life may be lonely, but it’s become peaceful. Sometimes being alone in life is better than being surrounded by half-ass people.” – Unknown

Is this something you need to take to heart, or apply in your own life?

Put self-love and self-care at the top of your list of priorities.

7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were – so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce the lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.