“At the end of the day, your feet should be dirty, your hair should be messy, and your eyes sparkling.” -Shanti We never know how much time we have left. That’s why it’s important to live everyday. And to fill everyday with something meaningful. To create a life that is kind and beautiful. To invest […]What Will You Do with Your One Precious Life? — Don’t Lose Hope
“To the ones who still believe in dreams: Chase them. Chase them until you’re out of breath. Then, keep running.” Unknown What do you dream of being free of one day? What do you dream of leaving behind? What do you dream of achieving in your life? Who do you dream of becoming, over time? […]Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
“So do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out. And decide.” – Meredith Grey A lot of life comes down to decisions. Decisions we make […]Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
All of us are troubled by negative thoughts. Thoughts which spoil our day and affect our self-esteem. Here are some questions you can ask to challenge and change these unwanted thoughts. 1. What is the evidence which says this thought is true? 2. What is the evidence that contradicts this thought? 3. Where does this […]Questions to Ask When You Have Negative Thoughts — Don’t Lose Hope
Originally posted on Don’t Lose Hope : “She had this way of always finding the good, despite all she had seen. And that is what I loved the most – the pure magic of her undying hope.” – Becca Lee It’s easy to be cynical when life has knocked you down. To board up your…Quote of the Day — Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative
Can you remember the last time you experienced pure joy? As children we’re familiar with the feeling of joy; but it becomes more elusive as we move through life. There are times when we feel happy, and when things are working out. But it’s hard to really capture a deep sense of joy. Below, are […]How to Find Joy Again — Don’t Lose Hope
1. Try to put into words exactly how you’re feeling. Is it the pain of rejection? Is it an overwhelming feeling of shame and self-loathing? Is it a sense of disbelief that you’ve been treated so cruelly by others? Is it a sense of utter desperation?
2. Try to find a way of expressing the pain. Sometimes we can tell the person who has hurt us– but often we feel that they won’t be responsive. If that is the case, find someone you can open up to. It’s really important that you have the chance to honestly express what you’re going through. If you feel there’s no-one you can talk to right now, then perhaps try journaling, or using some kind of art, like music or painting.
3. If the pain’s related to something that happened, admit that you can’t go back and change the past. You need to let it go and keep your eyes ahead. You are not defined by what happened to you, and you have what it takes to live a rich, rewarding life.
4. Related to this, forgive yourself and don’t hold on to regrets. Learn what you can – and then choose to move ahead. Don’t be a victim of your past, or other people.
5. Reconnect with who you were previously. Think of who you might have been if this had never happened. You can still be that person: they are still a part of you.
6. Focus on the things that bring you joy and happiness, and focus on those people who love care for you.
“I’m so tired of the narrative that trauma makes you tough. We are survivors, not superheroes.” – Jules Rylan The fact is: trauma turns your whole life upside down. You’re simply not the person that you were before this happened. And often you will find that you are fighting intense battles against shame and self-hatred. […]Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
“She is a beautiful piece of broken pottery put back together by her own hands. A critical world judges her cracks while missing the beauty of how she made herself whole again.” -J.M. Storm It’s easy to judge when we don’t know the full story, or when putting others down meets a need in our […]You Beautiful Thing! — Don’t Lose Hope
Below are some ideas to help you fight and break a habit.
1. Make up your mind to do things differently. Make the decision to turn this thing around. You have all the power you need, and you can make this work for you.
2. Decide to only work on one habit at a time. That focuses your mind, and your will to succeed.
3. Design a plan that is attractive and rewarding. If the pain exceeds the gain then you may not persevere. There must be something that’s enticing to make it seem worthwhile.
4. Nuke your negative thinking. You know that things will be tough and you’ll be tempted to give up – but plan in advance so you can push through trying times. For example, imagine how you’ll feel when you are living differently, and you’ve broken with the habit, and are basking in success.
5. Know the worst times of day, and the times you struggle most. Then come up with a plan so you cope better with those. But … make sure your ideas work, and are attractive enough, as it’s hard to keep on going when we’re low on energy.
6. Keep it simple. A harsh or complex plan can be too hard to implement. But making simple changes feels much more doable. (Also, remind yourself “it’s easy – and it’s not that hard to do.”)
7. Notice your successes. And reward yourself with that. Your effort’s paying off – and you are closer to your goal.