“There comes a point when it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore, so we give up. That’s when the real work begins. To find hope when there seems to be absolutely none at all.” – Grey’s Anatomy One day it will be different. One day you will be able […]
Hope in the Midst of Despair — Don’t Lose Hope
“At the end of the day, your feet should be dirty, your hair should be messy, and your eyes sparkling.” -Shanti We never know how much time we have left. That’s why it’s important to live everyday. And to fill everyday with something meaningful. To create a life that is kind and beautiful. To invest […]
What Will You Do with Your One Precious Life? — Don’t Lose Hope
“To the ones who still believe in dreams: Chase them. Chase them until you’re out of breath. Then, keep running.” Unknown What do you dream of being free of one day? What do you dream of leaving behind? What do you dream of achieving in your life? Who do you dream of becoming, over time? […]
Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
“Hope is being able to see that there is light, despite all the darkness.” It can be hard to find hope when we’re battling despair. But there are some strategies that can help with hopelessness, and the feeling that “it’s pointless – because nothing’s going to change.” They include: 1. Try joining the dots: Think […]
Finding Hope – Some Practical Steps — Don’t Lose Hope
“Your happiness is the greatest revenge against those who’d love to bring you down.” So go out there and enjoy your life. Be everything you want to be. It’s exactly what you deserve.
Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
“A great future doesn’t require a great past.”
To get over past mistakes:
1. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, does things wrongs, and has moments of regret. There are no perfect people out there. In that sense, you are just the same as everybody else.
2. Remind yourself that “that was then, and this is now”. You can’t turn back the clocks and change what you did, but you can be a different person in the future.
3. Allow yourself to experience and name the feelings you are struggling with (regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness, etc.) – then make the decision to let those feelings go. In the end, it’s unhealthy to become attached to them.
4. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What would you do differently if you found yourself in that situation again? How can it change the person you are now (so that you feel better about yourself)?
5. Recognise that failings and mistakes are part of the growth process. It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter obstacles, challenges and failures throughout life. Don’t let that stop you from embracing life.
6. Remind yourself that “it was what you did, it’s not who you are.” Don’t allow any single event or experience to define you. You are more than what you did – so don’t allow part of your past to now become your identity. Don’t let it determine your destiny.
7. Give yourself the gift of a new start. Forgive yourself, decide to start again, and move on with your life with a fresh confidence.
“We’ve got to live no matter how many skies have fallen. – Unknown No matter what has happened in your past, no matter who has set you back in life, You have the power to decide what happens next. You are still the architect of your own life.
Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
Mistakes and failure are part of life. But they needn’t hold us back; they can help us grow and change.
If this is something you are grappling with, then ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is this something I should take seriously and try to put right; is it something that is worth working on, and investing more energy on?
2. How much is my fault? Is it something I can change further down the road?
3. How much is outside my control; will anything I do really alter the situation or make a lasting difference?
4. Have I done everything I possibly can? Have I tried and exhausted all possible options?
5. Is it something I should put behind me, and decide to walk away from?
6. Who else has gone through a similar experience, or had this happen to them? Who can I talk to who will understand, and give me valuable help and advice?
7. What can I learn from this experience?
8. How can I build myself up again, so I have the needed strength to go forward in my life?
1. See each day as a fresh start and a new beginning.
2. Don’t be a copy of anybody else. Enjoy discovering and being your true self.
3. Be proactive, take control and look for opportunities. You’ve only got one life so make sure you stay in control.
4. Don’t focus on the obstacles or things you cannot change. Just ask yourself “What next? or else “What can I do instead?”
5. Appreciate your limits and then set clear boundaries. You need to care for yourself to be the best ‘you’ you can be.
6. Decide on your values and what matters most to you. Then live in a way that’s consistent with those values.
7. Don’t put life on hold as the months turn into years … and there’s always the chance that some important doors will close.
8. Set goals for yourself – then plan the steps to take you there.
9. Learn from other people that you value as role models – but ignore the negative and the hypercritical.
10. Let go of the past, and old hurts and grievances. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, or to see a counsellor.
“The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else feel comfortable.” – Nicole Lyons And yet we do it all the time. We hide, suppress and deny our pain to spare other peoples’ feelings … and to protect ourselves from their painful reactions.
Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
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