Don’t sweat the small stuff! Such great advice. But what does that look like in our daily lives? It means making the decision to be more chill about the following kinds of things:
1. The few areas that aren’t going right – When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the other things that are still going right. And if you’re struggling to be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have escaped. Sometimes the best gifts in life are the troubles you don’t have.
2. Trying to label everyone and everything – Sometimes you’ve just got to take people and situations for what they are, appreciate them, and not try to label them or change them.
3. Worrying about what everyone else thinks – The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks, and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel free.
4. Wasting time on the wrong people – You cannot make someone respect you; all you can do is be someone who can be respected. No matter how much you care, some people just won’t care back. At some point you have to realize the truth – that they no longer care or never did, and that maybe you’re wasting your time and missing out on someone else who does.
5. Old wounds and grudges – You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart. In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way. It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.
6. Superficial judgments – Every human being is beautiful; it just takes the right set of eyes to see it.
7. Letting small disagreements snowball out of control – Don’t let a single poisonous moment of misunderstanding make you forget the countless lovable moments you’ve spent together.
8. Showing a lack of self-respect – Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention you should be showing yourself. Choose to be your own best friend.
Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/12/14/9-things-you-need-to-chill-out-about/ (Abridged)
Life might be better if you try the following:
1. Let go of the past
2. Do stuff (instead of just thinking or talking about it)
3. Don’t let other people bother you
4. Make the effort to stay in touch (especially with those who mean a lot to you)
5. Allow yourself to make mistakes, and fail
6. Accept that things going wrong from time to time
7. Decide not to take things personally
8. Think about how you want to be remembered
9. Give without expecting something in return
10. Choose to be silly, to have fun, and to laugh
11. Value your friends, and always treat them well
12. Recognize that everything eventually ends, and loss is an integral part of life.
1. Experiment to see what makes you happy.
2. Hang out with people who are happy and upbeat as other people affect the way we feel.
3. Make a list of your blessings – don’t focus on “what’s wrong”.
4. Cultivate an attitude of thankfulness. Add to your list several times a day.
5. Focus on solutions instead of on your problems.
6. Make time to connect with the people you love.
7. Accept the way that you and others are. Growth and change don’t happen instantly.
8. Take time to enjoy the moment. Savour what you can from the small things in life – a sunrise, a rainbow, or a giggling child.
9. Remind yourself often that “this, too, will pass”. Hard times and trials are only temporary.
10. Follow your passions – as they reflect who you are – and are a natural source of fulfillment and joy.
11. Practice random acts of kindness.
12. Smile and laugh and often as you can.
“Always find time for the things that make you feel happy to be alive.”
There is more to life than responsibility.
Yes, it is important to work hard, pay the bills, take of yourself, and the people you love.
But it’s also important to relax and have fun.
Make sure you take the time to enjoy your life.
To be a great person …
1. Treat everyone with compassion and kindness
2. Treat everyone as valuable
3. Be interested in others (not just yourself)
4. Look for, and comment on, the best in other people
5. Be there for your friends when they’re going through tough times
6. Think of little things that could make another’s day.
7. Motivate others to be all that they can be.
1. Think well of myself.
2. Remember how far I have already come.
3. Refuse to ruminate over past mistakes or failures.
4. Refuse to get pulled down by others’ negativity.
5. Enjoy life’s little pleasures – like flowers and sunrises.
6. Be present in this moment.
7. Breathe, relax, and smile.
1. Be thankful that I have a safe place to stay.
2. Appreciate the people in my life.
3. Be accepting when others feel frustrated, cooped up, anxious, worried or antsy.
4. Focus my attention on things I can control.
5. Accept and let go of things I can’t control.
6. Consciously take care of my physical, mental and psychological health.
7. Enjoy taking life at a slower pace.
Things which block your happiness include:
1. Self hatred and self blame
2. Not being able to let go of the past.
3. Not being able to forgive yourself.
4. Not being able to cherish who you are.
5. Needing other to validate you.
6. Letting other people define who you are.
7. Trying to be perfect, and to please everyone.
1. Don’t keep doing things you hate.
2. Stop upsetting yourself with your negative thoughts.
3. Choose to enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
4. Watch what you say. Don’t put yourself or others down.
5. Take care of your body, and love and value it.
6. Develop a life-style that helps to build your self-esteem.
7. Don’t compare yourself to others. Notice how you’ve grown and changed.
8. Stop trying to change others. Simply focus on yourself.
9. Laugh a lot. Enjoy yourself. Don’t take your life too seriously.
10. Accept compliments. Value everything you are.
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