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The Ten Commandments

1. Be yourself.

2. Make time for those you love.

3. Treat other people as you’d like them to treat you.

4. If it hurts, let it go.

5. Change your thoughts – that will help change your feelings

6. Don’t put it off. If it’s important, do it today.

7. Enjoy the journey – it’s not just about goals.

8. You only have one life – so make it meaningful.

9. Be kind to others.

10. Always find a reason to laugh and smile.

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What to do when you lack discipline

1. Forgive yourself. You aren’t perfect. No one is. Recognise that beating yourself up will only make things worse. Instead, forgive yourself, and then decide to just move on.

2. Focus on motivation. Without motivation, you can’t do anything. It’s much more powerful than self-discipline. So when things get tough, remind yourself of why life will be better if you reach your goal.

3. Make it easy. Discipline is tough so remove some obstacles. For example, if you’re having a hard time exercising, make it super easy by just doing 5 minutes to start with. If you can make that change for 30 days in a row, you’ll have developed a new habit.

4. Focus on enjoyment. It’s hard to push yourself — and to have self-discipline — when you hate doing something, or you see it as a drag. So do whatever you can to create a sense of fun. For example, if you don’t like exercise, find some good music, or a workout partner, and focus on that part of the activity.

5. Repeat. You’ll almost inevitably slip up from time to time, no matter how good, and committed, you are. Just get up, get going, and keeping marching straight ahead.

Source: (Adapted)

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How to truly love yourself

1. Don’t keep bringing up your past mistakes.

2. Don’t keep beating yourself up for the things you get wrong.

3. Don’t expect things from yourself that you’re not yet able to give.

4. Be proud of all the progress you’ve made.

5. Believe that you deserve to be respected.

6. Believe that you deserve to be wanted.

7. Believe that you deserve to be loved.

8. Accept, respect and love yourself, just as you are.

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How to Improve your Productivity

1. Plan your day in advance. That means you can get up and get started right away instead of frittering away time.

2. Decide on your priorities, and do the most important things first.

3. Also, do the hardest task first. Otherwise, they will niggle at you constantly and slowly drain away your energy.

4. Avoid multi-tasking when you’re working on something important.

5. However, it’s good to multitask when we’re doing menial, repetitive and boring tasks.

6. Ditch requests and tasks that are unimportant, and a total waste of time.

7. Commit to NOT procrastinating. Ask a friend to keep you accountable.

8. Be organised. This includes engaging in advanced planning; knowing what you need for the task; having everything you need close at hand; bundling similar tasks together; and working in a relatively tidy and clutter-free environment.

9. Cut out distractions and avoid time wasters.

10. Know what your most productive time of day is and treat that as a sacrosanct period for working.

11. Get into the habit of shutting off racing, distracting and negative thoughts. This is a crucial form of self-discipline.

12. Break large tasks down into smaller sub-tasks – and set achievable deadlines for these.

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7 Simple Ways to Say “No”

you can be a good person with a kind heart

1. “I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.” This lets the person know your plate is full right now.

2. “Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something. How about we reconnect at X instead?” This lets the person know it’s not a good time. However, you also convey your desire to help by suggesting another time (at your convenience). This way, the person doesn’t feel blown off.

3. “I’d love to do this, but …” This is a gentle way of saying no. It’s encouraging as it lets the person know you like the idea but I can’t take part due to other reasons, such as prior commitments.

4. “Let me think about it first and I’ll get back to you.” This is more like a “Maybe” than a straight out “No”. If you are interested but you don’t want to say ‘yes’ just yet, use this.

5. “This doesn’t fit with what I’m looking for now – but I’ll keep you in mind.” Sometimes it is just best to turn the person/ offer down. Otherwise, the discussion can drag on and on.

6. “I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try X?” Again, sometimes it is best to say you’re the wrong person to help etc. If possible, refer them to a lead they can follow-up on instead.

7. “No, I can’t.” The simplest and most direct way to say no.

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