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5 Things that Keep us Stuck in Life

“A fresh start isn’t a new place. It’s a new mindset.” – Unknown

The following 5 things can keep us stuck in life:

1. Believing negative, unproductive and self-defeating thoughts. These include thoughts like “I could never … I’m not good enough to … I don’t deserve to … I’m useless at …”

2. Blaming others. It’s true that other people can have a huge affect on what happens to us, and where we are in life. But we give them too much power if we let them set our course, and see ourselves as victims, and act like we’ve no power.

3. Taking ourselves too seriously. It’s important to work hard and to have integrity – but we also have to laugh and enjoy ourselves as well. Also, decide to let things go, and put up with some mistakes. You’re not a perfect person and, the truth is – that’s OK!

4. Being afraid to take some risks or to live close to the edge. To have an interesting life you must leave your comfort zone and say “yes” to some new chances and opportunities. It will broaden your perspective, reduce anxiety, and provide you with new options and possibilities.

5. Being afraid of change. It doesn’t take much effort to stick with what you know. The unknown can seem daunting as we don’t know where that leads! But we grow as individuals and lead a richer life if we learn to accept changes, instead of being scared.

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Tips for Increasing your Willpower

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1. No matter how long it takes, and how beaten down you are, refuse to give in, or to relinquish your dream. Just get up one more time and then decide to try again.

2. We all slip up, and encounter obstacles. Just determine to keep going, and to get on track again. It doesn’t mean it’s over. It’s all part of the course.

3. We all need support and encouragement in life, so eliminate the negative, or toxic, influences. You don’t need those people who are quick to criticize, and don’t really help you to move closer to your dream.

4. Surround yourself with people who are similar to you, who have the same ambitions, outlooks and points of view. They’ll help to spur you onwards, and provide support you need.

5. Be inspired by other people who overcame defeat, who built a life from nothing, or turned their life around. Learn from their perseverance, and will to succeed.

6. Imagine how you’ll feel when you’ve reached the goal you’ve set. Try to picture what you’ll look like, and how your life will be.

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How to Develop a Growth Mindset

great people do thingsHere are some quick and easy tips if you want to develop a growth mindset:

  1. Choose to frame challenges as opportunities.
  2. Look for the good in every situation.
  3. Seek feedback from people you respect.
  4. Don’t equate the need to improve with failure.
  5. Develop grit; keep working for your goals.
  6. Reward perseverance, commitment and hard work.
  7. Don’t compare yourself to others; be proud of who you are.
  8. Remember we all have the ability to change.
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How to Create a Positive Impression

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Relationships matter in business and in life. They affect our success and happiness. So it’s worth considering the impression we make, and consciously working on improving this. The following thoughts might be useful here:

1. Smile: People who smile are viewed as being warmer and friendlier individuals.

2. Be easy to impress, or to make laugh and smile: Others also worry about how people see them. If they think that they’re succeeding, then they’ll like you even more.

3. Show interest and liking through your use of body language: Face and look them in the eye when you’re talking to them, and show them you are friendly through your open body stance (uncrossed arms and legs etc.)

4. Remember the power of transfer traits: Basically, that means that if you say nice things about other people, they assume you’ll say nice things about them, too … Or if you criticise others, then they assume you’ll criticise them, too.

5. Poke fun at yourself: It makes you seem more relaxed and approachable.

6. Remember the power of emotional contagion: That means that others tend to pick up the emotions we project. So, if you seem laid back, warm, happy and calm then those you are with will start to feel the same way, too.

7. Remember the name and a few basic facts about the person you are talking to: Such as their job, college major, favourite hobby, favourite food, places they have been to or awards they have received.

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Guest Post: It’s not About the Destination it’s About the Journey – What does that Mean?

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Today, I’m delighted to share a guest post from Peter Walter. Peter works as a transformational coach, helping people overcome anxiety, and giving them tools to thrive in life. You can learn more about Peter on:

Recently, Peter wrote a thought-provoking post entitled: “It’s not About the Destination It’s About the Journey – What does that Mean?” Click on this link to read Peter’s post. I’m sure you’ll find it interesting ….

It’s Not About The Destination It’s About The Journey – What Does That Mean?

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Rules for a Beautiful Life

We all want to have a beautiful life. But a beautiful life doesn’t suddenly appear. It is something we develop day by day, over time, through choices that we make and attitudes that we allow.

And the good news is these are under our control. This means that we can also choose to implement some changes. We can stop, turn around, or we can alter our direction whenever we decide we’d like to do things differently.

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Lucid Dreaming

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Have you ever tried lucid dreaming? It can be an interesting experience.

Lucid dreaming is being aware that you are dreaming. Typically, this occurs in the middle of a regular dream. Often the actual theme of the dream is beyond the individual’s control. However, it may be possible to influence the dream – to change the characters or course of events – including the ending of an unpleasant dream.

Suggested steps for becoming aware of, and increasing the frequency, of lucid dreams include:

  1. In the daytime, when you’re fully awake, stop ask yourself the question: “Am I dreaming?” In time, you should find that you’ll also start to ask that question in the middle of a dream.
  2. Keep a dream journal. Keep a pen and paper next to your bed so you can record any dreams you have. You should do this immediately on wakening up. This can help you to identify some common themes, people, places, situations or events that you often seen to dream about. Since these are unique and specific to your dreams, they’ll act as triggers to alert you when you’re dreaming.
  3. Notice when you are more likely to be dreaming. Research shows that we are most likely to have a lucid dream during a nap, a few hours after waking, and usually in the morning. Also, lucid dreams are common during REM sleep – which is most pronounced at the end of a night’s sleep.
  4. Experiment with Laberge’s lucid dreaming technique. Basically, this suggests that you set your alarm for 4 ½ or 6 hours after falling asleep. When the alarm goes off, write down as much about your dream as you can remember. Then, while you are lying in bed relaxed, imagine that you are back in that dream. Tell yourself, “I will know that I am dreaming when I fall asleep again”. This usually increases the chances that you will have a lucid dream.
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7 Things to Quit

So much of life comes down to personal attitude, and our willingness to harness and select our different thoughts. We get into grooves and ruts that can make us miserable. And it takes effort to shift these and create some different tracks.

However, it’s definitely worth it if we want to change and grow, reach our full potential, and realize our goals.

So, don’t let the status quo, tiredness or apathy allow you to stop trying, or knock you off your path.