Remind yourself that:
- This is not the end. You are going to survive. There’s no point in pretending that life is always great. Sometimes we trip and fall, or we make terrible mistakes. Allow yourself to heal, then get up and start again. Take one or two small steps, and know you’re going to survive!
- Everybody makes mistakes along the way. You’re only a failure if you give up and don’t try. Accept that you are human, and then move on with your life.
- Positive thinking leads to positive results. If you think you can succeed then there’s a good chance that you will. The mind is very powerful; we create what we believe.
- Success is closer than you think when you are down. Mistakes can be our teachers; they don’t mean that all is lost. You’re likely one step closer to getting what you want.
- You are not your mistakes. Don’t fall into the trap of defining who you are by different things you’ve done – or by your failures and mistakes.
- There are very few mistakes which are truly devastating. Mistakes are merely setbacks. You can always start again.
- A failure is sometimes a blessing in disguise. Not getting what you want can sometimes be a stroke of luck. It makes you reconsider, and try some different things. And these can often lead to better opportunities.
- You have the power to determine your own happiness. – You can hold onto the heartaches and the failures of the past – or choose to let them go and fix your eyes on what’s ahead. It’s up to you to choose what will become your destiny.
Such an inspiring post! It’s so important to understand that neither our failures, nor our mistakes define who we are. This is the way we learn and progress in life.
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Thank you 🙂 I agree 100%!! It’s so important to choose not to be defined by failures, mistakes or disappointment. We are who we are today, not who we were in the past.
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Is it something you learned throughout your life or was it always a part of your mindset?
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I think I always had a bit of positive thinking, fighter mindset. However, I’ve definitely seen the value of these attitudes over time 🙂
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That’s great to know 🙂 I’m still learning how to put the theory into practice. Any piece of good advice in this subject? 🙂
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I think we are all learners when it comes to dealing with failure. I think continually challenging your thinking is really important. Our thought patterns are habitual so it takes work to change them!!!
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That’s definitely true! I keep working on changing my thought patterns for a long time, but what matters here is not time. It’s the final result. I hope I will be dealing with failures better and better. That’s the best way to grow. How do you change your thinking? Do you use any affirmations?
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Yes, I agree. It’s not time but persistence, and actually believing what you are telling yourself. I don’t use affirmations, no. I generally try to identify and challenge errors in my thinking. What works for you?
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I’m not a fan of affirmations either, but sometimes they help when my mind is resistant to believing in its power. What works for me? Accepting myself the way I am. Challenging myself to do better. Repeating myself I can do it. How do you challenge errors in your thinking? What’s your reference point while identifying which ones are wrong?
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It’s a bit too complicated to explain here. Our college offers a course in cognitive behavioural coaching. Part of that addresses Beck’s 11 common errors in thinking. Have a look at the syllabus on our website … or maybe I will write a more detailed post on that topic 🙂 Thanks for chatting. Have a great day!
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My pleasure and have a great day! 🙂
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Thoughtful
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Thanks!
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